It’s that time again. Time for another inspiring solo female travel story. For those who don’t know, Women Who Wander is a travel series I have on my blog where other bloggers can share their stories of Solo Female Travel. It’s something I personally have not done enough of but reading all these incredible stories inspires me to no end! this week we have Daniela sharing her unapologetic experience as a solo female traveller.

Meet Daniela:

Daniela loves traveling and exploring new places. She goes on a trip every month, some closer, some further. She recently started a travel blog, to share what she saw and learned on the way and to inspire more people to travel. You can follow her adventures on her blog The Lost Romanian

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I have always dreamed of traveling and I was lucky enough to be able to do it from a quite young age. It was not in my plans to become a solo female traveller. In the beginning, it was either I was traveling by myself or I was staying at home. I chose to travel. Then I started enjoying it. Now I barely find time for solo travel, as friends ask to join me even before I decide where I’m going next.

Why would you go there?

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My first solo travel outside Europe was in Kenya. I was so excited I could finally afford to go on a safari trip in Africa. I asked all my friends and acquaintances to join me, the instant response was No. “Why do you want to go there? You must be crazy, you will get raped/kidnapped/killed etc.”

Indeed, travel should come with some warnings. For me, it was a very intense experience, as it shook up all the cells in my brain and re-puzzled them to give me new perspective and meaning. Being alone and far from everything for some time made me connect better with myself. It’s a relationship that is too often disregarded. I would go to a destination not because it’s a well-known tourist destination, quite the contrary. I would go there for the experience, for the thrill of the unexpected, for how it changes me. I am trying to capture what I’m seeing and living into valuable lessons for my personal development.

Could you not find a man to travel with you?

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One morning, I was taking my breakfast at a soda (family-run small restaurant) in Liberia, Costa Rica. The owner was visibly puzzled, and couldn’t hold it in and came to ask me: “How come you are alone?” I explained how I traveled by myself to many beautiful places and I like it. He insisted “But why alone? You are pretty…”
I noticed that for some cultures is particularly hard to understand a woman traveling by herself is actually… enjoying it! In Romania, I got the same. “You couldn’t find a man to travel with you?” or “She must feel so lonely”.

The thing is, you can feel lonely while traveling with others. Being alone and feeling lonely are not the same thing. I’ve heard many stories of friends traveling with people they don’t really like, simply because they don’t want to travel alone. Or couples breaking up before or during a holiday, while both feeling miserable.

For me, travel is important and each trip is dear to me. I would not choose to spend the time with people I don’t really like, it’s too risky. Usually, the ones I do travel with, they are solo travelers as well. It’s kind of a guarantee they are more relaxed and less clingy.

You are so brave!

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A few months after I moved to London, I had to go to the dentist. I filled in a form, but couldn’t add anyone for emergency contact (in the UK). When I explained the lady, I was expecting another pity look, but instead, she looked surprised “Did you move here all by yourself? Wow, that’s so brave!”

Sometimes I get this reaction. It makes me feel good, though I don’t see myself as brave. Solo travel seems to me just another type of travel, same as traveling with friends or family. But it’s not perceived so, if it’s a woman. She is brave for not being afraid or for her ability to plan and enjoy a trip to a foreign place. The bravest thing about solo travel is stepping out of the comfort zone. You might not like what you find there, in your sight and in your mind, and you have to handle it by yourself. But at the end, it is very rewarding.

The bigger picture

Solo traveling can give you more confidence, through self-awareness. It teaches you about tolerance and understanding others. You witness kindness without labels. You learn to trust yourself and the unknown. Ultimately, this benefits not only you but also others, through relationships and interactions. Having relationships just for the sake of not being alone is not quite healthy, and yet very common.

More common than a solo female traveller. I often wonder why being or doing something alone is viewed in such a bad light. And I’m thinking maybe because there are not so many of us (yet). But hopefully, in the future, it will become less weird and less brave, just common.

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Finally, If you are a solo female traveller, or just have an interest or opinion about it and would like to write for Women Who Wander, you can contact me at youngandundecidedblog@gmail.com. Can’t wait to share your stories

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26 thoughts on “Women Who Wander: Solo Female Traveller and Proud”

  1. I’ve also been asked a few times why I am alone on a trip, and my answer is always “why not?” It’s surprising to me how many people find solo female travel to be a strange concept. I couldn’t agree more with this, “Being alone and feeling lonely are not the same thing.” Sometimes you just need to be by yourself!

  2. As a solo male traveler I get some similar questions to you. Such as can’t you find a lady to travel with you etc.. I think if I did wait for someone else or try organize a trip with someone else it would make things so much more difficult. For this reason solo travel is the best!

  3. Unfortunately, so many people and cultures still consider “strange” or “dangerous” for a woman to travel alone, and we still need to explain or “justify” this choice. But it doesn’t change the fact that traveling alone (for a woman as well as for a man) is the highest form of self-love 🙂 Thanks Daniela for sharing your experience! 🙂

  4. Good on you. I think everyone should travel solo at so,e point in their life to experience the ultimate freedom. The confidence it gives you just can’t be found from anything else. It’s epic. Carry on 🙂

  5. I travelled solo, I travelled with friends, in a group, as a couple… And all I can say about solo travel: It isn’t special at all. You travel by yourself, that’s all. Nothing more, nothing less – you have some advantages by this: Your own pace, your decisions what to do during each day without any compromise and if you want to hang out with a bunch of folks you get to know on the road, that is fine too. But some disadvantages as well (sometimes it is more expensive).

  6. I am also familiar with the comment Why are you travelling alone? Where is your husband? I think it is hard for other cultures to understand. And I am also a big fan of the street art you have shown in the photos off brick lane! I have the same shots!

  7. I definitely admire solo female travelers. Before my study abroad program started, I spent a week by myself in Paris and despite feeling like an independent person, it was much harder than I thought it would be.

  8. So brave and inspirational! I’ve only done mini day trips by myself and am still mustering up the courage to go backpacking all alone. I think my biggest fear is simply just not having anyone take photos for me hahahhaa #thatiglife #firstworldproblems.

  9. Hi Daniela;) Cheers from Bucharest;) You look great!
    I only traveled alone to other countries with work, however I support and encourage everyone to travel in any kind of counfiguration: group, couple, single.
    There should NOT be any kind of bias or dangers for solo travelers, especially for solo female travelers.
    Julia,
    Romania

  10. Good for you Daniela. I hope lots of girls read this and are inspired by your get up and go attitude. I have done a little bit of solo travel and have found it to be exhilarating and a huge confidence booster. These days I travel with my family but I hope my kids have the confidence to get out and see the world on their own. Thanks for sharing on #FarawayFiles Chiera

  11. Like Daniela says, what most people don’t seem to grasp is that being alone doesn’t equate to being lonely. I’ve felt completely alone at a party with friends and at ease with myself while walking the streets of Amsterdam.

    Love that you give solo female travellers a space to share their stories. Thanks for sharing.

  12. Being a bit older, I have more freedom nowadays but I certainly know all these questions. It was a bit strange for me to return to solo-travelling when my kids were grown up but it’s my 3rd year as a digital nomad now and I got used to it again. I recently spent a couple of days with a friend and that was great, too. I don’t care what other people say but there’s someone in Lima, Peru who means the world to me and when he told me a couple of weeks ago that he doesn’t understand me because I spend so much time alone and am so unsettled at my age, it really hurt.

  13. Love this post. I don’t think traditional travel writing covers this market nearly as well as it should. Loads of people want to or have to travel on their own. I’ve travelled on my own without kids (and before kids), but also as a single parent with kids. Each time has been just as fab as travelling with a partner (sometimes better). Sometimes I’ve met up with friends, and that’s great too. It’s very freeing. You don’t always need someone to ‘share’ the experience with. In any case, with social media, you can pretty much do that if you want to anyway.

  14. I hate that there’s a stigma around solo travel, and particularly solo female travel, since sometimes it’s the best way to experience a place. I think it’s awesome that you’ve gone to these places by yourself and I do think it’s brave because it can be scary to travel alone (female or male)! Not necessarily scared for your life, but if you just think about dining alone, or going on a group tour alone and not having someone to talk to, it can be uncomfortable or lonely. Best of luck with all your travels 🙂

  15. I can SO relate to her. I went to Tanzania by myself and just like for Daniela in Kenya, it was a VERY intense time for me as well where I learned SO MUCH about myself! Great series – hopefully this will inspire more women to travel solo because there’s just no better way to learn so much about yourself in such a short time!

  16. Wow. My first solo travel adventure was to London – a place where pretty much everyone speaks English and it’s such a touristy place that it’s easy to get around. I can’t imagine travelling to an African country as my first taste of solo travel. Mostly because of the perceived language barrier. This is awesome!

  17. This is so great! I love that you feature solo female travellers. I had similar reactions when going to Costa Rica alone. Everyone was either worried or in awe that I would travel alone. Loved reading Daniela’s story, thanks for sharing!

  18. Yes, some cultures find it hard to believe that a woman can travel solo. But slowly things are changing and traveling solo today does not raise as many eyebrows today as it would have done a few years back. I agree with Daniela’s reasoning that traveling solo does not mean you are going to be lonely, after all, You have the best friend with you, yourself!

  19. She’s pretty cool. We have high respect and admiration for women who travel solo. They have encountered and experienced so many things, and have solved many “out of home” problems that many people cannot possibly imagine. Hats off to you, Daniela!

  20. Good on you girl! I have never really solo travelled – not because I don’t want to but because it’s just never really fallen into place. Should really get my A into G and do it!

  21. 🙂 It made me smile when i read about you being ask How come you are alone? Happens all the time to me too! Specially in third world countries some people dont understand how woman can be travelling alone without the man by herself.

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